Do you believe in soulmates?
I never did. I thought it was absolute madness to think that there could only be one person out there who was a perfect match for you. I thought it sad that if you didn’t find that person, you would end up spending your whole life alone, unwanted and unloved.
I hoped that if there was someone out there for me, that there would be enough in common for us to fall in love naturally.
And you know what I discovered?
I was completely right, and completely wrong.
When I fell in love – and yes, I’ve only fallen in love once – that man wasn’t my perfect match. But he’s become my perfect match over time.
That’s the difference for me. I would definitely argue in this moment that my husband is my soulmate: but we’ve worked hard to become each other’s soulmates. We work hard at understanding what the other one needs, and becoming that.
We’ve wanted to be each other’s soulmates, and so we’ve become each other’s soulmates.
I’ve been fortunate to not have to kiss too many frogs to find my prince, but some of my poor characters have to put up with a huge amount of nonsense before they find their happily ever after.